It was a silver flash in my right-hand mirror, glimpsed briefly before appearing full-sized in my peripheral vision: a seven-or-eight-year-old Ford Escape, doing eighty-plus in the center lane, not totally in control. I was riding the CB1100 home in rush-hour traffic, droning along in a long line of 50mph traffic occupying the left lane. Near the intersection of 315 North and Interstate 270, both the inside and outside lanes tend to slow significantly. The left-hand lane continues on past the intersection to my house; the right-hand lanes slow down for a merge with Route 270 East. Sometimes the center lane is faster or even wide open, but unless you’re really interested in getting on 270 West it’s pointless to be there.
As the Escape flashed by me in that pointless lane, he put about half of the vehicle in my lane, forcing me to take a hard swerve out of his way. It wasn’t life-threatening as such — if you’re not prepared to swerve three or four lateral feet at any given time, your lifespan as a motorcyclist in Columbus will be measured in hours — but I was annoyed. So when I saw the Escape again, stopped in that pointless lane ahead trying to merge into mine, I made sure to give him the universal “What the fuck?” wave/gesture. He was looking straight ahead, slouching with his elbow out of the window, buzz-cut and wearing Oakleys, clad in the bright-yellow T-shirts that all the construction workers around here have to wear. The look on his face could best be described as “hillbilly hard-ass”.
For about ten seconds, I was furious. Then I decided to take a moment and ask myself if I was simply responding to a narcissistic injury. After all, he hadn’t hurt me with his probably-inadvertent buzz, and he hadn’t even managed to get ahead of me in traffic. I totally let it go. Cleared my head and leaned the big Honda in for the left turn off Route 315. And that was that.
A few hours later, I was standing in my driveway, watching my son pedal his “drift trike” around in a variety of spins and caster-oversteer maneuvers. I’d brought the Boxster out of the garage, rearranged the bikes, gotten the VFR started, and begun charging the Boxster’s battery. The weather was eighty-two degrees. John and I had spent about forty-five minutes doing some batting practice in the front yard, where he demonstrated just how much stronger he is than he was last fall. He swings the practice bat now with a genuine vicious swiftness, sending the slow-pitched foam Franklin baseballs above and behind me some eighty or ninety feet.
My CB1100 was parked out in front of the house on the sidewalk. Periodically, John would drift circles around it, primarily to demonstrate that he could but also because he enjoys setting my teeth on edge a bit. I try to encourage a little bit of disrespect for authority on his part but I’m not sure where to draw the line. In a perfect world he’d wind up somewhere that was neither prison nor a cubicle.
When I saw a car enter our little cul-de-sac, I called to John that he needed to clear out of the road, but he’d seen it before I did and was already on his way out of danger. It was my friend in the Ford Escape, still wearing his yellow shirt and his Oakleys. He pulled around right in front of the house and came to a bit of a sharp halt before stepping out.
He must have recognized the bike from the main road, I thought. Apparently he took my little gesture pretty hard. John was about a hundred feet away from us. My Accord was in the driveway between us. I knew that it was unlocked and that there was a Morakniv Pro S in the glove compartment. How dare this prick come to my house to threaten me in front of my son! I thought. I’m going to gut him like a fuckin’ fish right here on the street.
Then he reached back into the car for a pistol and I started running full-tilt at the Escape, knowing that I don’t move quickly on my left leg and that I’d have to hit the door while he was still on the other side of it before beginning work on the soft tissue of his eyeballs and throat with my bare fingers.
“Looks like someone’s hungry!” my opponent smiled, pulling out a black vinyl bag.
Holy shit. He’s the Pizza Hut delivery guy. John, who sees better than I do even from three times the distance, came pedaling over at top speed.
“Hey, little guy! You ready for dinner!” Now out of the Escape and holding the bag, this fellow was maybe five foot seven, thick around the waist.
“We’re starving,” I said, coming to an unsteady halt. “I just, uh, didn’t want to hold you up.”
“No hurry!” he replied. “Just sign here. Great day to be outside, huh? Wish I could be home, too. Let’s hope it’s like this tomorrow night.” I tipped him five bucks on a total ticket of $21. “You all have a great night! See you next time!” And just like that, the Escape was gone, moving quickly out of the cul-de-sac but careful to avoid the various bikes and toys scattered out on the asphalt.
We all went inside to have dinner. “That was the guy who buzzed me on the freeway today!” I said to Danger Girl; I’d complained about it previously. “He’s also our pizza guy.”
“He must have been in a real hurry to get to work,” she said. “Think of how much it would suck to have to commute to your job in rush hour traffic.”
“Especially,” I reflected, “since it’s probably his second job. He works construction all day then goes home to deliver pizzas.” I looked at John, who was contentedly munching on his pizza. I thought about what it would be like to work two jobs every day out of the house. To know that my son would be asleep by the time I got home. To live under the kind of conditions that would make it necessary to deliver pizzas every night just to get by.
I’ve been there before, and I’ll probably be there again. But not today. I wondered if our delivery guy had children. I wondered if his arrival at my relatively prosperous-looking home, with its collection of cars and motorcycles, with my son playing in the cul-de-sac while I stood there and watched him as if I didn’t have a care in the world, made him feel like I’d felt when his Escape wandered into my lane today. Like he was powerless to fight back against the situation, like he was bringing a knife to the gunfight of life. I thought about how I felt at every crummy foodservice job I’d ever worked. You’re busy cleaning toilets or cooking fries to make chump change and everybody who comes into the restaurant just seems to have their shit together way better than you do.
Almost certainly, I was overthinking it, the same way my still-sharp-enough memory and irascible temperament had combined to attach a nonexistent threat to a pizza delivery. Still. No man, they say, is an island. The actions we take affect others and they multiply across space and time. My new friend’s inattentiveness behind the wheel that afternoon could have left my son without a father. The economic and personal choices I’ve made over the years have almost certainly contributed to the establishment of a world where everybody has to work two jobs just to get by. It’s easy to pay a little more attention on the road — but how are we to know that everything else we do isn’t making someone else’s life just that much more difficult? Which of us, when we face the final judgment, can say that we helped our fellow man more than we harmed him? And what will the penalty be for failing in that most basic, most human, task of all?
Damn Jack ~
Once again you hit the nail on the head c.
Too many out there don’t give a rat’s patoot about anything / one else but GIMMIE GIMMIE NOW ! .
-Nate
That lesson - that a person’s outward behavior may not be a direct reflection on what they think of you, but a reaction to how they feel about their own life in general - is something we should all think about periodically, as it can help to de-escalate a lot of social/work/commuting conflicts. Great story. Great lesson (my formerly short-fused self has been tamed by just the sort of outlook,)
“I knew…that there was a Morakniv Pro S in the glove compartment.”
Better off with an East German Makarov. Never bring a knife to a gun or car-ramming fight.
Wow! I just came over to comment on your R&T piece, and then I see this terrific bookend. You’ve got your finger on the pulse of something big, Jack. It’s pretty funny to me that I find your economic-political pieces far more thoughtful and worthy of further consideration than any of the sites overtly dedicated to those topics that I used to read. Feel like you’re going to have to expand beyond your current car mag confines at some point.
Your humanity and empathy are top notch man. It can be painful, but imagine the alternative: empty, soulless existence in which you never truly enjoy anything because you can’t allow yourself to open up due to the fear of being ‘hurt’.
Don’t know if any of this makes sense, but thanks for the two pieces today. Haha!
Not sure if they are legal by you, but those Glock knives aren’t a whole lot more expensive. And those Glock Glocks are even more effective, beyond 21′ of course.
I have a Glock knife and e-tool, bought them way back in 1993 or thereabouts.
You’re a good tipper.
Damn that total coincidence had the potential to escalate quickly. But I can understand the wave of panic that would overcome you.
Poignant.
Now let’s substitute the upper middle class / lower (working) middle class for another dialectic:
- republican and democrat.
- woman and a man.
- American in a foreign land and a person speaking a different language.
- Jew and a Muslim.
Very poignant indeed.
I’m glad you taught your kid to get out of the street when cars are driving by. It seems every year a bigger percentage of children will just hang out in the middle of the street so cars have to swerve around them. Combined with an increasing number of drivers who are texting or watching Friends DVDs, it is a wonder so many survive. Regardless of who may have the right of way, 3000+ lbs of metal moving at 25+ mph needs to be respected.
I’ve noticed a lot more asshole teenagers walking down the middle of the street these days, even when there are perfectly good sidewalks on either side.
Don’t ever try to drive through Ann Arbor, Michigan, where pedestrians intentionally ignore vehicles traveling at any speed and distance out of spite.
I like how this article is so thought provoking .
FWIW , Teenage years are difficult , many times it seems the default mode for them is ‘ asshole ‘ .
Good thing so many Adults have learned Compassion .
-Nate
“FWIW , Teenage years are difficult , many times it seems the default mode for them is ‘ asshole ‘ .”
this is a large part of why I don’t want and will never have kids. I don’t feel like wasting over a decade of my life on something which will just turn around and act like I’m the most worthless piece of shit which ever existed.
” this is a large part of why I don’t want and will never have kids. I don’t feel like wasting over a decade of my life on something which will just turn around and act like I’m the most worthless piece of shit which ever existed.”
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Understood 1,000 % .
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That was my default position too after a wretched Childhood but my ex Wife sandbagged me and I became a Parent , I didn’t want to be the unhappy , deliberately mean spirited asshole my own Father and Mother decided to be by choice (helpful Parenting tip : when faced with an “!OOPS!” baby , don’t take it out on them and they may not grow up to hate /dislike you) .
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As it turns out once you put aside your fears and insecurities , Parenting is hard work but has rewards far exceeding anything else in life .
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Seriously .
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-Nate
(who had a movie night with his Adult Son last night)
*yawn*
So being a childish asshole is a thing you’re proud of ? .
Wow .
-Nate
no, I’m just tired of people responding to me (when I say I don’t want kids) by telling me how much they loved having kids. it’s tired, it’s old. It’s not going to change my mind. having kids doesn’t automatically mean you’re going to be a great parent. I’ve seen enough stories on the local news stations’ websites where people have done unthinkable things to their children.
Look, I’m less than 5 months from being 40 years old. I haven’t wanted to be a parent up until now, and I’ve no inklings to change my mind. and it’s getting close to being too late. If things worked out for you, great. but that has nothing to do with me, so your smug proclamations about how “rewarding” it is mean nothing to me.
Alright, everybody.
JZ has a right to not want kids.
Nate has a right to evangelize on the virtues of having kids.
I was in JZ’s camp until I was thirty-seven years old, so I understand how he feels; I’m in Nate’s camp now, and I understand how he feels.
No malice aforethought.
Glad you’re both here.
Jack, you should really think of starting a socio-political blog if you have the time. I’ve always found the times when you talk about them - usually as a little aside from the main - interesting, whether or not I agree with you. Perhaps sociopolitical commentary, with little excursions into vehicles and life and other stuff?
Sure, some people will hate you forever if you become political but that isn’t particularly new, is it, especially in our wonderfully cooperative times…
No sign on the roof announcing that the Escape was out delivering pizzas?
Negative.
I don’t see a lot of clamp-on signs on cars anymore, to be honest. Some of it must be related to the disappearance of rain rails. There was a time that you could get a “universal fit” bike rack, too.
All the pizza places around here still use light up signs but they are all either suction cup or magnet mounted.
It would be a fitting illustration of the changes over the past few years if Joe the plumber became Jack the IT contractor/gig writer/socio-economic blogger.
Love your writing Jack.
For what it’s worth, your writing is the only reason I continue to read R&T.
Thank you!
Anyone who thinks I’m smug doesn’t know me or is simply stupid .
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I didn’t extol the virtues of having kids , what I said was : it’s hard work and I for one , am ever so glad some total strangers stepped up because my Parents couldn’t give a damn , due to life’s odd twists and turns , now it’s my turn in the hot seat .
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In fact , my Childhood was so wretched I’d not wish it upon people I don’t like .
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However , it didn’t turn me into a heartess bastard/asshole who *is* smug , unlike me .
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I didn’t want to have Children either , just like you , I got sandbagged and made the best of it .
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-Nate
Hey Nate,
I apologize if you thought I was being critical of you in any way. Wasn’t my intent
Not a problem at all Jack .
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You’re doing just fine all by your ownself just like me .
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I don’t need / want anyone o fight my battles .
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Not everyone should have kids , _DUH_ =8-) .
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-Nate